Scared and ashamed

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Im very ashamed about this and its haunting me-what can I do?

So I went to a chain dental clinic (which I have learned now that those are bad) and I just went for a cleaning, then after they sat me down with the dentist, who quickly started drilling, at the time I thought this was just protocol. I was very trusting. I was young and didn't know what a filling was or that they even drilled. :( So the dentist proceeds to fill 8 teeth. I had been to this chain two years earlier where they gave me three fillings and I still didnt know exactly what that was. So the dentist this time asked if he could "refill them?" I dumbly said yes and then I even said "do as many as you can." !!!! because I thought that they were helping me. My teeth where fine and perfectly white with no visible cavities. Everyone always tells me how white my teeth are as well. The fillings were done so badly that five years later they all fell out. I was in shock and then realized that when I had gone to that dentist he had put fillings in my teeth. I really want to talk to someone about this because it really bothers me. Im not sure what to think or do about this? What would you advise, since it really takes its toll mentally on me. I have since had the teeth refilled by a trustworthy dentist but am scared and scarred. Do I just have bad luck?
 
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You were young and inexperienced and they did you wrong. They should have explained what they were doing, or you should have asked, but it is not your fault. You were not practiced in dealing with things like that. They just steamrolled over you.

Best you can do is forgive yourself if you still feel ashamed or responsible. You are not. Stick with a good dentist and go from here. It's all you can do. Learn the lesson and just be better at being an advocate for yourself.
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You were young and inexperienced and they did you wrong. They should have explained what they were doing, or you should have asked, but it is not your fault. You were not practiced in dealing with things like that. They just steamrolled over you.

Best you can do is forgive yourself if you still feel ashamed or responsible. You are not. Stick with a good dentist and go from here. It's all you can do. Learn the lesson and just be better at being an advocate for yourself.
VBC

Thank you, I have not forgiven myself. I play it over and over in my head. What do you mean by being an advocate for myself?
 

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Thank you, I have not forgiven myself. I play it over and over in my head. What do you mean by being an advocate for myself?
Just know what you are getting into and fully understand what is the plan and what will happen. If you don't like anything you're hearing question it and don't be satisfied till you get an answer. You have the right to get your needs met. Better ask a question and bring up concerns before anything is done. It gets easier the more you do it.
 

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Just know what you are getting into and fully understand what is the plan and what will happen. If you don't like anything you're hearing question it and don't be satisfied till you get an answer. You have the right to get your needs met. Better ask a question and bring up concerns before anything is done. It gets easier the more you do it.
Thanks, I am still going to the dentist to get the fillings fixed. I just feel alone. I hope Ill be ok. Thanks for the concern and positivity.
 

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